Setting Boundaries

Hi guys,

July is almost over, and while some people around me are bummed about the lack of warmth, I’m quite enjoying the sub-20 degrees throughout June and July. Maybe August will bring us a delayed summer.

Today, I want to delve into creating boundaries and the influence of culture. But first…

Weekly Inventory Check

The 28th of July means that July has unofficially ended. If there’s anything you can do in the next three days, do it; the rest needs to be shifted to next month’s bucket. Reflect on your open items and why they remain incomplete. I’ve realized that we often want to do a lot of things, but in reality, we don’t. We just believe we do. So, like a broken record, prioritize what’s important and cut out the rest.

Boundaries and Balance

This week, I had a thought-provoking discussion with my friend Muddasir about boundaries. We reviewed an article that identified numerous types of boundaries—10, 15, even 20. This made me question how boundaries fit into our era of heightened individuality. While we’re encouraged to protect ourselves, this self-protection can sometimes hinder collaboration and empathy.

Historically, society has progressed through the agricultural, industrial, and technological revolutions, each emphasizing collaboration and mutual support. However, increasing income inequality has shifted many people’s focuses towards self-interest, rather than collective benefit. This shift presents a problem: if everyone is solely concerned with their own needs, relationships and societal functions can deteriorate.

Current discussions often suggest that we need boundaries for every aspect of our lives to ensure personal protection. While boundaries are important, they aren’t a cure-all. We shouldn’t focus solely on self-preservation; we should also strive to give more than we take and build supportive relationships.

In our age of technological overload and social media, boundaries should address systemic issues and our psychological biases. For example, limiting social media use can help counteract the negative effects of constant comparison. Additionally, setting boundaries with those who spread negativity or adhere to harmful beliefs is crucial for maintaining our mental well-being.

Ultimately, boundaries should help us navigate modern complexities without falling into self-centered isolation. We need to balance protecting our individuality with contributing to societal progress. The goal is to find a middle ground where we move forward together, ensuring that self-protection doesn’t come at the expense of collective well-being.

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Reel of the Week

Check this out! This must have come across your mind that usually the concept of Individuality usually presides in the West culture, whereas on the Eastern side of the globe they are more inclined towards collectivism. The notion of individuality carries merit when it fosters self-reflection and personal growth. However, if this perspective becomes pervasive to the extent that personal interests consistently take precedence in every scenario, it can give rise to a society where mutual care and consideration wane. Such an environment may lead to a decline in societal empathy, where individuals prioritize their needs exclusively, potentially resulting in a community where the ethos of compassion diminishes. Therefore, while both collectivism and individualism have their virtues, when taken to extremes, they can instigate inherent issues that permeate a significant portion of society.

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The Weekly Vasl Podcast

Our episode on Do you know your boundaries well enough? is out now. Join us for an insightful discussion in the final week of July as we delve into the important topic of boundaries, featuring our special guest Mudassir. In this episode, we explore the intricate relationships between boundaries, individualism, and collectivism, and how these concepts intersect in various aspects of life beyond just family and relationships. While boundaries are often seen as essential, I have shared my perspective on when it might be necessary to dissolve them, especially in situations involving loved ones. This is a nuanced conversation, and we invite you to share your thoughts and feedback. Tune in and be part of the conversation!

Thoughts to Leave You With

As we navigate the concept of boundaries, remember that our strength lies in balancing individuality with collective progress. Prioritize meaningful connections, protect your mental well-being, and strive for a society where collaboration and empathy lead the way.

Thanks for joining me in this reflection. Until next time, make every moment count and every connection meaningful.